![]() ![]() They are preoccupied with their own grandiose self-importance. To maintain this belief they must use distortion and illusion-or magical thinking-to hide any imperfections, projecting shame and blame onto others instead. Narcissists see themselves as near perfect. It is so strong that the narcissist cannot process shame in a healthy way, so instead they often simply act without shame. ![]() Actually, narcissists have enormous amounts of deep-seated shame (not to be confused with guilt). James Masterson identified what he called the “Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism:” Here is a description that I find simple yet very helpful. There are many definitions and diagnostic descriptions of narcissism. This has been the plight of the narcissist ever since. As his punishment, Narcissus was sentenced to fall in love with his own reflection in a pool of water-thus imprisoned forever by the endless preoccupation with his own image. The term, “narcissism” comes from the Greek mythological figure, Narcissus, who rejected the advances of the nymph Echo. You may even be a narcissist yourself (although you have likely stopped reading this by now if you are). This is a series you’ll want to follow because it’s likely you have had either a boss, a spouse or a parent who is (or was) a narcissist. How does narcissism fit with the three-dimensional model of emotional intelligence? Today we’ll answer that question, but stay tuned: In future posts, I’ll cover how narcissism relates to leadership, partnership, and parenting. ![]()
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